As children, we are most afraid of “failing”. But what if we never failed? What if there was no concept of failure? How would children turn out? In this TED talk, Psychologist Carol Dweck describes the two ways to think about a problem that’s slightly too hard for you to solve and how that determines your chances of success and happiness in life.
“How are we raising our children? Are we raising them for now instead of yet? Are we raising kids who are obsessed with getting As? Are we raising kids who don’t know how to dream big dreams? Their biggest goal is getting the next A, or the next test score? And are they carrying this need for constant validation with them into their future lives?” — These hard hitting questions are posed by Dweck to make us think about how we may be unknowingly hurting our children’s prospects.
“Just the words ‘yet’ or ‘not yet,’ we’re finding, give kids greater confidence, give them a path into the future that creates greater persistence. And we can actually change students’ mindsets,” she says.
About the speaker
Carol Dweck is a pioneering researcher in the field of motivation, why people succeed (or don’t) and how to foster success.