Girl child playing with a wooden made aeroplane

Being a woman who earns, fends and decides for herself there is one thing I can vouch for, ‘No one messes with a woman who knows her self-worth.’ Yes, this sentence seems so powerful and each one of us would want to raise that daughter who would know her self-worth. But from a toddler who holds your hands to learn to walk to a woman who is absolutely self confident, there is a phase called ‘raising her up.’ And this is what stays with a girl. Though there are no fixed rules on parenting, here are a few ways you can guide your daughter to growing up into a woman who has enough self-esteem to take the world in her stride. With a couple of exceptions, these will be equally effective for moulding your son into a confident and caring man.

Mummy, you are your daughter’s first role model

When a girl is born, the first woman who is close to her and the one she trusts with all her might is her mother. She watches her every move and imbibes whatever she sees, without filtering. How you treat yourself is exactly the way your daughter will learn to treat herself. If you are over critical about yourself or if you always have negative things to say about yourself, know that your daughter is mirroring herself in you.

I have a friend who is obsessed about her hair. No matter where she gets it groomed; it is never the way she wants it. To us, she has perfectly silky hair. I met her mother a few months ago and she too has the same issue. So, that is where the daughter inherited it from. You as a mother are her first scale to confidence, if you are okay with who you are, she will be too.

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A version of this was first published in the October 2013 issue of Complete Wellbeing.

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