I remember meeting my father’s accountant many years ago in the 1980’s. He was  charming and oozed charisma. As a keen student of human behaviour, I would admire his traits and wish that perhaps some day I could be liked and respected as he was.

Now, decades later, I have identified five core elements of people with charisma. These are not traits that you are necessarily born with, but are habits you can develop with practice.

They smile a lot

Charismatic people are not stingy with their smiles. They smile easily and naturally, and even to strangers or in challenging situations. It’s a part of who they are. Think of a person that you know is charismatic and I’m sure their smiling face is what you will remember. Even though it takes more facial muscles to frown than to smile, some people seem to prefer the former! The smile of the charismatic person can be seen as a welcoming and comforting beacon of energy.

They have a positive attitude

Setbacks hit us all. Failures, disappointments and down times often lead people to viewing situations with a negative attitude. Charismatic people often have a great attitude, looking at failure as an opportunity to learn, adapt and grow. They know how to take action, viewing failure as a signpost for a new direction. When working in a team or group, charismatic people will often attempt to lift their colleagues up from the floor of disappointment. To charismatic men and women, attitude really is everything.

They know to focus their attention

When you are in conversation with a charismatic person, they are totally engrossed and attentive to what you are saying. You can almost feel that you are the only person in the room when they are speaking to you. It makes you feel special and important, emotions that we all like to feel. They maintain eye contact and are not fidgety or distracted by the environment or their phone. Time can seem to disappear when you talk to a charismatic person, as they can be very charming, interesting and oozing with positive energy. Think of the opposite as being with someone who is blaming, complaining and judging the world constantly, whilst wearing a scowl on their face! This can be energetically draining for you.

Their confidence is high

Charismatic individuals generally don’t pay attention to what people are thinking about them. They exude confidence and have a good level of self-esteem. You can tell this by the way they speak, and also the vocabulary that they use. They don’t like to gossip or put people down. They also take no pleasure in seeing other people feel bad about themselves in general conversations or social situations. Because they are confident, they will not try and have the last word, or even have any need to be ‘correct’ in a discussion. This reveals their high degree of self-awareness. And remember, nobody is born with high confidence. Increasing your confidence is a daily exercise and it’s about choosing to the do the very things you feel nervous or self-conscious about.

They enjoy having fun

Last but not least, charismatic people like to have fun. They don’t mind being the butt of jokes, often having a self-deprecating sense of humour. They like to live in the fully utilised now [F.U.N.], and enjoy every moment and challenge that life can throw at them. Because of this element of fun in their life, they tend to be a magnet for people who are on that similar wavelength of fun. A charismatic person will not publicly complain about any problems in their life, rather always focussing on that fun, and opportunity seeking feeling of abundance. They are sensitive to other peoples feelings of negativity, and try not to introduce any negativity into conversations.

Charismatic people have certain ways of behaving and carrying themselves which makes them insanely likeable. We want to know them, be like them and have friends like them. In many ways, you could describe them as ‘human behaviour at it’s best’.

Pro-tip

Take a journal and ask yourself how you could improve in yourself the five core elements listed above. You could even ask a trusted friend, where you could improve. Self improvement always starts with self awareness.

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Beauty lies within

Our face is made up of 57 muscles. Yet, for most people, fitness starts only from the shoulder level, going down. Muscles have a tendency to increase in size and firmness when they are exercised. Giving your face a workout can help build and firm your facial and neck muscles.

So can this produce just as astonishing results as an expensive procedure or surgery would? Yes, if you start early and do these facial exercises regularly. Minute by minute, day by day, you can work on yourself and sculpt your face.

Facial exercises for a healthy and glowing face

Facial exercises are like face yoga, and they promote the production of healthier, more resilient cells naturally. Muscle fibre and connective tissue must be challenged to remain vital, healthy and youthful. Facial exercises improve the flow of blood to the face and more oxygen and nutrition reaches the skin. It is a non-surgical way to improve the problem areas of the face such as:

1. Droopy eyelids
2. Crow’s feet
3. Under eye puffiness
4. Sagging cheeks
5. Cheek folds
6. Droopy jaw line
7. Vertical line around the lips
8. Thinning lips
9. Double chin effect
10. Loose skin on the neck area.

For the first month, devote at least 10 minutes daily to do these facial exercises. Later you can do them four times a week. Because the facial muscles are small and easily isolated, truly dramatic results will be achieved in a short time span.

Benefits of facial exercises

• It stimulates blood circulation to feed the cells of the outer layers, promoting better colour and skin tone.
• It rejuvenates the elasticity and natural collagen, and smooths sunken areas of the face.
• It diminishes fine lines and softens deeper lines to create a more firm and youthful texture.
• It brightens and tightens the skin.

People of all age groups, right from 16 – 72 years, benefit from these facial exercises. The younger have problems of heavy cheeks or double chin. The middle age complain of toning up, and 45 and above for sagginess and deep naso-labial folds and wrinkles. It works well both for sculpting and toning the face as well as for delaying and reversing the effects of aging.

5 simple facial exercises

The following five simple facial exercises will help you improve your looks and delay those aging lines from appearing

1. Naso-labial lines and corners of mouth

Place two fingers on either side of the mouth and pull them towards the ears. Purse your lips and pout. Hold for a count of 10. Do 10 reps to avoid naso-labial lines and sharpen corners of your mouth.

2. Eye muscles

Place two fingers at the corner of your eyes. Shut your eyes tight. Open. Do 10 reps to strengthen your eye muscles.

3. Chin muscle

Place three fingers on the chin. Pull down your lower jaw. Curl your lower lip inside the mouth, against the pull of the fingers. Do 10 reps.

4. Double chin

Press the tip of your tongue behind your upper teeth. Place the ball below the chin and press upwards. Hold for count of three. Release the pressure of the ball. Do 10 reps to avoid double chin.

5. Cheek lift

Place two fingers below the chin and pull it to one side. Place the ball on the other side of the cheek. Raise the ball towards the upper ear lifting the cheek muscles. Hold for count of 10 and smile to the same side of the ball. Do 10 reps.

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