Have you noticed that when you’re thinking about choosing a particular brand of car, you keep noticing that brand everywhere you go? Or if you are expecting a baby, you seem to see more pregnant women than you did before? Brian says in his seminars that you are a “living magnet”, you invariably attract the right people, ideas and opportunities into your life that are harmonious with your goals.

Focus boosts positive coincidences

When you focus on a goal, the reticular activating system [RAS] a part of your brain that functions as a filter to process over four hundred billion bits of information per second that you are exposed to every single day, searches for people, places and circumstances to support what you are thinking about. Simply put, if you have well-defined goals, RAS will direct your attention towards people, events and opportunities that can help achieve your aspirations.

David Letterman, the late-night funny man, started his career with a flop. After a string of guest appearances on comedy shows, sitcoms and game shows, Letterman finally landed a hosting gig for a TV pilot called The Riddlers.

The series was a bust. But Letterman got noticed by the producers of The Tonight Show with Johnny Carson. He soon became a regular guest, and eventually a TV talk show host who earned $40 million a year.

Jazz musician James Morrison and his brother were trying to make it big in New York, but ended up playing music on the streets. They made enough money to get a burger from Burger Boy, and within hours of eating his burger, James was flying business class, eating smoked salmon on his way to Europe for a major jazz tour. It turned out that a waiter at Burger Boy spotted his trumpet and put the Morrisons in touch with an agent who urgently needed a replacement for a sick soloist.

Examples of coincidences often appear to be simply accidents. However, as Albert Einstein said: “Coincidence is God’s way of remaining anonymous.”

Have you never experienced positive coincidences?

If you have faith that the Universe is there to help you, you will find this concept easier to accept. But if you have never experienced positive coincidences, you may be wondering why. Here are a few reasons:

• You have goals but no burning desire. You do not make enough effort to succeed, giving the Universe mixed signals and confusing the outcome
• Your desire is not consistent
• Your actions and desires are not aligned
• You are not grateful for the good things that happen to you
• You accomplish many things but don’t acknowledge or are shy to acknowledge your successes or are too self-critical, leading to weakening of morale and enthusiasm
• You have poor awareness. You fail to see the connection between your desires, actions and results, eventually leading to missed results
• You do not affirm and visualise your goals regularly.

Problems are stepping stones

Many of us avoid uncertainty because we fear negative outcomes. However, even a negative outcome can lead us in the right direction. An unhappy experience in your life, like losing your job, can open new career avenues for you. But if you ignore the learning and instead just focus on the negative experience, you will invite more of the same. On the other hand, if you treat them as another chapter in the narrative of success, you’ll find it easier to draw positive solutions.

The important thing to remember is that problems affect everyone.

Steve Jobs could have felt victimised after he was fired from Apple. He chose to react differently. After his dismissal, he saw opportunity where others couldn’t. He went on to lead a small animation company and turned it into the juggernaut that is now Pixar. When The Walt Disney Company bought Pixar in 2006, Jobs became the largest shareholder in Disney. Moral of the story: when unwanted changes happen, look beyond them and see the opportunity they might contain.

Learn to recognise coincidences

Challenge yourself with the following “How to” exercises

1. Become aware of what is going on in your life and start actively looking for the coincidences. You strengthen what you focus on.
2. Record all the coincidences you observe in a week and analyse them to see how they brought you closer to your goals.
3. Express gratitude for every event that brings you closer to your goals.
4. Set clear goals—yearly, quarterly, monthly, weekly and visualise them twice every day. The clearer your goals, the more you invite positive coincidences.
5. Align your goals with a larger selfless purpose. When you want to help others, the Universe wants to help you.
6. Trust that all coincidences are there to help you, even though you may not think so at the time.
7. During each encounter, ask yourself: How does this incident bring greater awareness into my life?
8. When you face obstacles, view them as learning opportunities.

What is important is that you learn to recognise coincidences, and use them to help you reach your goals. You then begin to look at every setback as a stepping-stone to success.

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I remember driving my daughter to school one morning, with my “feel-good” music playing and it had rained earlier but the sun was out, I was feeling happy and Plugged In and suddenly I sensed that there was a rainbow. I looked up in the sky and there it was. I love seeing rainbows and perhaps because it is a frequent phenomenon in Sydney skies, on some level, I knew that there would be a rainbow in the sky that morning. All the elements were there…so was it synchronicity, did I manifest it or was it nothing?

I was told by a friend to buy a pair of ceramic love-birds for good feng shui and keep them on my bedside to attract a romantic relationship. I haven’t found a pair yet, though lately, every morning when I go to turn my kettle on and I look out the kitchen window, I see love birds and I watch them going through their dance of intimacy. The female would bow and the male would peck at her feathers just around her neck and then he would bow and she would do the same with her beak. I see it every day now. Coincidence? Logical?

A sceptic would possibly call all this a post hoc fallacy. This is when people doubt the powers of manifesting, their personal power, and want to question the unseen energies.

What would it mean to you if you could use your intuition and were always accurate and guided? Even the wrong turns are the right ones, symbolically and physically. Every path introduces you to different experiences, lessons and people. Using your powers of intuition and synchronicity is just learning to read the sign-posts better, to notice the guidance that is coming from inside.

When I was not sure about a possible path to take, a business opportunity, a potential company or person to collaborate with, I went with my gut and I always saw numerous signs that led me towards following the path and going with the flow. The signs showed up everywhere—bumping into people randomly at airports who passed statements that affirmed that I was headed where I needed to go; the specific person I needed to get in touch with happened to be staying at the same hotel I was in; the book I wanted to reference almost fell on my head, off the bookshelf. There was significance at every step. Colours, music, lyrics…all in synch with what I was thinking and feeling in the moment. As if the whole world was my personal movie and every detail had been choreographed perfectly to appeal to my senses.

So what was different? I had decided what I wanted. The decision was made on all levels of my consciousness. Conscious, subconscious and super–conscious. The congruency is what turned me into a powerful magnet for all I wanted.

I was singing a song in the gym shower and as I was walking by the chicken shop on the way back home from the gym, the same old song was playing on their system. Almost like Déjà vu in reverse. Déjà vu is a sense you get of having been in exactly the same moment before while you are experiencing it for the first time and synchronicity is when you can see the thread that connects all your experiences leading up to the one you are in now. Notice the choreography of the course of events that need to take place in order for you to witness these signs.

I suggest that you write in your gratitude journal every night. A by-product of doing so is that when you look back through your journal after a few months, you will find that you have important and useful databases. One, that of people and events that you were grateful for—so you can connect the dots and see the synchronicity for yourself, and two, you will have a mind bank of things and people to be grateful for.

Synchronicity exercise: Look at your list of achievements, think of the big epic stories in your life, focus on some of your so-called regrets and list the signs and coincidences that weaved them all together. This can be a lot of fun, so take your time with it.

Excerpted with permission from Don’t Think of a Blue Ball by Malti Bhojwani, published by Om Books International, INR295. Buy from Flipkart.com

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