I have immense respect for Alexander Pope’s contribution to literature and spiritual thought and have no doubt that when he wrote this piece of wisdom his intent was to promote love and forgiveness over hatred and resentment. Unfortunately, we tend to use the idea that forgiveness is divine as an excuse not to forgive. “I am not God! I am only human, so I can’t forgive,” say many bitter men and women. To these people I say, there’s nothing divine about forgiveness—it’s an out and out human act.

Why God never forgives

You see, forgiveness becomes necessary only when there is blame. And blame arises out of judgement, which, in turn comes from a belief in duality—good/bad, right/wrong, love/hate, blessing/curse, noble/wicked and so on.

So, while we humans are always censuring this deed and condemning that behavior, I cannot imagine the ‘creator’ doing the same. The creator, if there is one, would be free of judgements and hence incapable of blame.That is why I believe that God cannot forgive. For, where there is no blame, there is no question of forgiveness.

When we elevate forgiveness to the level of the divine, we push it away. We make it an epic phenomenon that is within the reach of only the most evolved men and women. Ironically, such enlightened beings have no need to forgive because they have, like God, ceased to blame.

Nelson Mandela’s story

Former US President Bill Clinton was intrigued by Nelson Mandela’s dignified exit from prison in 1990 after spending 27 years there. Many years later, when he met him, he asked him, “Come on, you were a great man, you invited your jailers to your inauguration, you put your pressures on the government. But tell me the truth. Weren’t you really angry all over again?” And Mandela replied, “Yes, I was angry. And I was a little afraid. After all I’ve not been free in so long. But,” he continued, “when I felt that anger well up inside of me I realised that if I hated them after I got outside that gate then they would still have me.” And he smiled and said, “I wanted to be free so I let it go.”

“It was an astonishing moment in my life. It changed me,” Clinton later wrote about this dialogue.

Mandela’s greatness stems from being able to acknowledge that he is human—he felt anger and fear too. His forgiveness is about freeing himself from the prison of hatred, anger, and bitterness—which purified his heart and took him close to the divine.

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To forgive is human

Bestselling author and spiritual teacher Dr Wayne Dyer calls our need to forgive a “monumental misperception”. In his view, to which I subscribe wholeheartedly, forgiveness helps us transcend the negative effects of blame—an emotional prison that we escape.

Forgiveness is perhaps among the highest of human acts but it is still human. We always forgive for the sake of our own freedom. So to err is human and to forgive is also human. But to go beyond blame and forgiveness—that is divine.

A version of this article first appeared in the September 2012 issue of Complete Wellbeing.

Last updated on 2^nd August 2024

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What a tragic statement. Why should it hurt to be yourself? Imagine going through life never feeling completely known, never feeling like you are seen or affirmed for who you really are in your divine uniqueness. That does hurt a lot!

So it’s time to focus, not on what is seen on the outside, but on what is true about us on the inside; to embrace and honour the Sacred Imprint in each of us that continues to shape us into courageous, confident and compassionate people.

Why living the truth is so difficult

Scott Peck, psychiatrist and best-selling author, begins his first book The Road Less Traveled with three simple words: “Life is difficult.”

He then goes on to explain, “The hardest thing in life is to base life upon truth, reality.  If our lives are to be healthy and our spirits are to grow, we must be dedicated to the truth. For truth is reality. And the more clearly we see the reality of the world, the better equipped we are to deal with the world.”

The first question you and I have to ask ourselves is “are we living our lives [basing our thoughts, feelings and behaviours] on truth?  Or are we living life based on unreality, fantasy and denials of truth?”

An ego-driven culture

One of the reasons it’s so difficult living in truth and reality is that it is so often counter-cultural and certainly counter-ego. Our ego, reinforced by culture, tells us that what we see in front of us is what’s real, is what defines us, is what matters—the groups we associate with or don’t associate with, the tribe or caste we belong to, the clothes we wear, the amount of money we make, our various life orientations, our positions and status in society and how much power and influence we have.

The goal turns into simply trying to fit in to this societal picture—or else drop out or feel left out. Our value becomes determined by how we measure up to people‘s standards—the more we measure up, the more value and worth we’re given—that’s ego and culture-driven identity.

And since our ego is primarily about personal survival, it will influence us to do whatever we must, to survive in this world. So, we tell ourselves that we must fit in at all costs or drop out. It’s very difficult to swim against the current!

The story of Patch Adams

Have you seen the movie “Patch Adams?”  The film is based upon the true story of Hunter Adams, eminent American physician and humanitarian who changed the way medicine trained doctors. The story opens in a psychiatric ward in 1969.  Hunter Adams has committed himself to the hospital because he’s suicidal and having great difficulty getting a handle on life. When he’s admitted, and the orderly is showing him around the floor, he’s almost accosted by a patient, an old man, who runs up to him, shoves four fingers into his face and asks, “How many fingers?  How many fingers?” When Hunter replies, “Four,” the old man shouts angrily, “Idiot!  Moron!”  And then he goes stomping off.

The orderly tells Hunter the man’s name. “Arthur Mendelsohn.” Hunter replies, “The Arthur Mendelsohn?” “The very one,” the orderly replies. “Brad Beet Industries, the most innovative mind of our times. He’s here self-committed, the genius syndrome, Howard Hughes-type stuff. Look at him now! He can’t even count the windows or even his own fingers. He spends his time digging into the creative potential of the human mind—a deep thinker who’s dug too deep!”

One night Hunter comes to Arthur’s room. Arthur’s working away at his desk, creating complex mathematical formulas on a piece of paper. Hunter asks him, “The fingers, Arthur. Tell me about the fingers. What’s the answer?” Arthur continues his work without paying attention to Hunter. Hunter suddenly notices that the styrofoam cup of coffee on Arthur’s desk has a leak in it. Coffee is dripping out all over the desk.  Hunter takes a piece of tape and puts it over the hole.  It stops the leaking.

See past appearances

Arthur notices and looks up. He takes Hunter’s hand in his, holds up four fingers, and asks, “How many fingers do you see, Hunter?” Hunter says, “Four, Arthur. There are four fingers you’re holding up.” “No, no!  Don’t look at the four fingers. Look beyond the four fingers. How many do you see?” Hunter lets his gaze rise just above the four fingers and looks in the distance, his eyes a bit blurry. Suddenly, it’s as clear as day. “I see eight fingers, Arthur. Eight!” “Yes, eight!  Right answer! You see, Hunter, if you focus on the problem you’ll never see the solution. You have to look beyond the four fingers to see eight!”

Hunter then asks Arthur, “What do you see when you look at me, Arthur?” Arthur glances down at his cup of coffee that isn’t leaking any more. “You fixed my cup. See you around, Patch.”

If you focus on the problem, you can’t see the solution. And what is the problem everyone has been focussing on that Arthur is referring to?

Both men are looking at each other now, not based upon what they see in front of their eyes, on the outside—the grey hair, unshaved faces, loony-bin surroundings, crazy rantings and ravings—but they’re now looking at each other based upon what they see inside the other. Beyond the outside.

Hunter sees Arthur as a brilliant man who still has tons to offer. And Arthur sees Hunter as a caring person who is skilled at helping others and mending “brokenness”. So Arthur paints a new vision for Hunter. He gives Hunter a new name:  Patch. “You fixed my cup.” And that new vision empowers Patch to turn his life around and embark on what turns out in the end to be a successful medical career of bringing wholeness to hundreds of people.

How to be alive with divine vision

Here’s the way Dr Larry Crabb, in his book Connecting, describes it:  “A divine vision lets us ignore lots of problems that a selfish vision requires us to focus on. We need to think vision, not problems. And we need to think divine vision not selfish vision.”

Dr Crabb is reminding us of a very significant human truth:  every person has been stamped with the divine image. We are, at the core, beings of infinite value, worth, goodness and potential. We each have a Spirit-breathed uniqueness imprinted on the essence of our being.

Sacred scriptures refer to human beings as clay pots, which hold the inestimable treasure of God’s glory. These clay pots have cracks in them. Most of us would admit we often act like ‘cracked pots.’ But the purpose of the cracks is to allow this Glory to shine through and bless the world.

So the very reality that we often get judged by—our externals, the ‘cracked containers’ of our lives—is in fact a conduit to expose the divine goodness and let it shine through.

Vessels holding divine glory

We may be ordinary crackpots, but we are vessels holding the glory of God, each having the Spirit-breathed imprint of uniqueness stamped on our souls, containers of God’s life and grace unfolding in us. Now that’s a powerful truth and reality.

For this reason, we have to look beyond the four fingers to what often cannot be seen on the outside in order to see the truth. We must come to embrace and honour this truth about ourselves and others. Imagine how differently we would show up in the world and in other people’s lives if we were seeing through God’s eyes. We would truly be able to bless each other in honour and deep respect and compassion.

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