Trip to Venus

Mars Venus expert Dr John Gray tells Manoj Khatri what the woman of today wants from her relationship and men

happy girl jumping in airIt was Dr John Gray who first said that men are from Mars and women are from Venus and that they both speak different languages. Through his books on the subject, he acted as the interpreter helping each understand the other better thus saving many marriages.

When we say men are from Mars and women are from Venus, are we not oversimplifying complex traits and classifying them into two neat and mutually exclusive categories?

There are millions of differences between human beings. And there are differences between men and women—our bodies and brains and our hormones are so different. We’re different in how we react to stress. But we can still make generalisations and be very accurate. What is important is that these generalisations be expressed in a positive way so we have a better and positive understanding of each other rather than some stereotypical negative generalisations.

So men and women are different by design?

You are absolutely right. When you understand what these differences are, then it begins to make sense that we are a perfect fit together—we complement each other. We’re not in competition with each other. Women are capable of making babies and men are not, so it makes perfect sense that a woman’s brain be different from a man’s.

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John Gray
Dr John Gray, PhD, is the author id 16 best-selling relationship books including Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus: one of the best-selling books of the last decade. Over 40 million Mars Venus books have been sold in over 45 languages the world over. His focus is to help men and women understand and appreciate their differences. He is a certified Family Therapist, consulting editor of The Family Journal and a member of the Distinguished Advisory Board of the International Association of Marri.


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