The bottom line is, one is to ALWAYS have their mind and heart on God, and Godly things. Having children is a Godly act, to continue to populate the world, as mentioned in the Bible. To have sex just to satisfy fleshly desires…where is God in this? I believe though there is nothing wrong with masturbation, HOWEVER, it is to be done only to relieve any stress within, as similar to getting a body massage, to relieve any stress from life. Masturbation is not to be used for lustful pleasure, which takes one off of God. And as long as a person does not become addicted to masturbating, and done every once in a while, as I said, just as a stress relief, I don’t see anything wrong with it It’ is massage to relax; to be against it is to be against massages. But, done without any spousal help because a person’s stress is something one should resolve on their own and not get their spouse involved to avoid possibly making demands of the other not being around more to help them with their stress (as in a similar issue with many marriages where one spouse wants to have sex with them more than the other)….issues like that. I think it’s each individual spouse’s responsibility to deal with their own stress in that way. 

Another reason why I believe it’s wrong to have sex within marriage unless to procreate is when having fun sex, the appetite for playful sex could get so strong that the person may then be tempted to seek another person to have sex with; the person has allowed themselves to be OK with lustful sex, opening up that receational gate makes it easier to expand it to going elsewhere for similar pleasure. And this is one of the reasons why so many Godly people are having issues like being obsessed with porn.

There are many ways to rise above the fleshy action of sex. Sex is way overblown in the world. There are lots of married couples who don’t have sex, and are happy, well-adjusted people who are busy doing other things, glorifying God like praying, meditating, hobbies, or other things with or without their spouse that they don’t even think about sex. I think at least most of us have focused on something so much, like work, or hobbies, where the time goes by so quickly, that we even sometimes forget to eat! Something we certainly need more than sex. 

It just takes focusing, concentrating on other things in life, realizing there are many, many things in life besides sex to think about.