Edge Out Anger, Fear and Guilt

Being in control and able to resolve just about any problem effectively is the way professionals, parents and others are accustomed to going through life. During times of uncertainty, many adults and children are challenged as they experience more anger, fear, guilt and grief than usual, even if they are hundreds of miles away from the devastation.

People find themselves experiencing negative emotions, often accompanied by a sense of helplessness, wrong and sometimes rage. The negative side-effects of anger, fear, guilt, grief, frustration and uncertainty can cause work performance, social relationships and family life to suffer. These emotions can also interfere with health, energy levels, emotional stability, mental clarity and inner development.

Trinity of Success and Fulfilment

What causes one person to react to an event with anger while another is afflicted by fear? One explanation I use with clients is what I call the Trinity of Success and Fulfillment, drawn from my book, From Success to Fulfillment. Hinduism includes the philosophy of the Trinity: Shiva, the Destroyer, Vishnu, the Preserver, and Brahma, the Creator. There are also three universal qualities in chemistry with alkali, salt and acid; in physics with protons, neutrons and electrons; and, in nature with winter, summer and spring. Within all human beings there is the trinity of will-power, love-wisdom and creative intelligence.

If someone has tremendous will-power like Alexander, the Great, they are more likely to experience anger and are less likely to be bothered by fear. A devotional person with highly developed love-wisdom, like a Mother Teresa-type personality, is more susceptible to fear than anger. And, someone who is not well educated is more apt to be swayed by superstitions and cultural taboos, often leading to greater feelings of guilt.

Inner Purification Breathing Method

Negative emotions are powerful, difficult to control and colour our view of the world and life.

Working with Fortune 500 executives, hospital and university directors, government leaders and parents, I teach a simple strategy that can be done at one’s desk or before going home to their family.

The Inner Emotional Purification and Revitalization Method takes about five minutes. Practice this three times a week, especially on Mondays and Fridays:

Imagine yourself in front of an ocean and expel all negative feelings and emotions by breathing them out. Just have the intention that the ocean is absorbing them. It is easier to release negative emotions when you exhale to a target like an imaginary ocean.

Do deep and slow breathing as you exhale the negative feelings and emotions listed below. Repeated inner breathing disempowers the influence of negative emotions on your consciousness. Breathe out:

• Stress and emotional tension
• Fear, worries and phobias that reduce your vitality and weaken your power. Removing them enhances your virtues and growth
• Irritability, anger or hatred. These deactivate and inhibit your emotional and mental faculties. They drain you and create enemies
• Jealousy, envy or lack of confidence. These corrupt relationships and slow our performance. Releasing them allows you to enjoy inner peace and self-esteem, and builds trust in relationships
• Compulsive behaviours and obsessions. These destroy your life and health, especially if they result in vices. Releasing them will enable you to enjoy good health and will give you the ability to regulate your life
• Selfishness and greed. Releasing them gives you the power to continuously materialise and enjoy abundance without mishaps connected to the misuse of wealth.

Not only will you feel more centred and aligned after practicing the Inner Emotional Purification and Revitalization MethodTM, you can also teach it to your employees and co-workers for greater co-operation at work. Couples who practice this exercise regularly enjoy greater harmony. The best part – for students, this strategy improves their ability to handle exams with less anxiety.

Drive Negativity Away

There are breakthrough strategies to not only cope with emotions that interfere at several levels, but also to overcome them. Anger, fear, guilt and grief often manifest as irritability, impatience, intolerance, frustration or over-critical attitude. For people working in organisations, or with clients, partners, alliances, teams or suppliers, these tendencies can block business success. For managers and leaders, negative emotions are particularly destructive, causing enemies and resistance rather than advocates and support.

In personal life, negative attitudes and behaviours tend to push people away, resulting in loneliness and broken relationships. They cause stress in couples. Children can be deeply affected by the negativity their parents are experiencing, even if parents try to hide their emotional stress. And, with the drumbeat of images from television news coverage, many children, even if they are too young to explain why they feel upset, are experiencing increased levels of anxiety.