Comments on: What to Do When Your Partner Has Asperger’s syndrome https://completewellbeing.com/article/partner-aspergers-syndrome/ Award-winning content for the wellbeing of your body, mind and spirit Thu, 16 Oct 2025 10:51:27 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0 By: Eva Mendes https://completewellbeing.com/article/partner-aspergers-syndrome/#comment-2141 Fri, 05 May 2017 13:06:11 +0000 http://completewellbeing.com/?p=29995#comment-2141 Dear Mrs. Unhappy,

If you’d like to see you a consultation with or without your husband with me, I would be happy to discuss how we could get your husband to change this behavior. Sometimes hearing it from a neutral third party and breaking it down step by step and giving him other “to do” behaviors instead of “not to do” behaviors can really help!

]]> By: Mrs. Unhappy https://completewellbeing.com/article/partner-aspergers-syndrome/#comment-2135 Fri, 05 May 2017 01:02:19 +0000 http://completewellbeing.com/?p=29995#comment-2135 After 20 years of marriage to a man who is a terrible communicator, termed “abrasive” by others, can’t remember other peoples’ names and often acts like a five year old in need of attention, I went to a councilor by myself who mentioned that it sounded to him like my husband might have Asperger’s. I should mention that my husband has a Ph.D.and is very technically oriented and was successful in his field before he retired — however, many years ago he was a college professor and that career was unsuccessful for him. His behavior is quite different when we are alone than it is with others present. In a group, he “latches” on to one person and talks to them to the exclusion of others. He has a poor sense of humor. He takes on the role of “tour leader” in a group and becomes very demanding and puts me down in front of others. I often hate him but I am 70 years old and don’t want to get a second divorce. After his episodes of rudeness he always apologizes and starts doing things for me that he never does when others are around. He is not close to his own family members including his sons , I often fantasize about him dying, and when he is away I don’t miss him. He “doesn’t hear” much of what I say or forgets it and I have to repeat myself. Yes of course there are good things too, we do have a lot of interests in common, he is generous and supportive of my pursuits and my independence. But how can I cope with his boorish behavior in front of others that makes them feel uncomfortable? It’s almost like he goes into a trance and I can’t reach him. He won’t make eye contact. It’s as if he knows he is being a jerk but cannot stop. We’ve talked and talked about it over the years but nothing changes no matter what I do.

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