Comments on: Don’t demand respect — command it!

By: Manoj Khatri

Manoj Khatri — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Thanks Roli, V.N. Appreciate your comments.

By: Renu Agrawal

Renu Agrawal — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Dear Manoj, A friend forwarded me the article feed link today, hence a late feedback. I loved reading your article. I think that self respect comes from self acceptance. Often times in life when we expect too much from ourselves and feel disappointed in our own imperfection it is not easy to maintain self esteem and in turn self respect. We are our own biggest critics whether we realize it or not. A major turning point comes in our lives when we start to accept ourselves regardless of our shortcomings, our mistakes and imperfection. Of course it takes both courage and kindness to reach that point. That’s when we can feel confident and secure and self respect follows.

By: Roli Gupta

Roli Gupta — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I wholeheartedly agree with you, Manoj. I have often wondered why we should have to touch an elder’s feet, simply because she happens to be older, even if I don’t feel any respect for her. Another aspect is that, initialy we may respect a person simply because of her position of authority or age, but the person’s actions and words are the factors which decide whether that respect is sustained or not.

By: V N Mittal

V N Mittal — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Well written , Manoj!
To echo Shakespeare,
‘The Quality of Respect is not strained.It dropeth as a gentle rain from Heaven
it is twice blessed, it blesseth him that gives and him that takes’……..
Yes in the process both the giver and the taker of respect are equally blessed but the giver should not expect return always.

By: harry

harry — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Jaijairam

i read the article of happiness and respect too
i wanna know if you have problems in life and no one is around you to help you are tensed so how you will feel happy,
My story is i lost my father 14th oct after that no one is in my family to support me not in financial terms but emotional support also m married my inlaws are the same i cant except any help from them i wanna move a head in life m doing my mba part time working in bpo night shift my age is 29 where to move now which job i should do to earn my bread and butter s m not happy with my current job.

There is no one to help me to guide me in my carreer m not able to find the way.

i m also intrested in doing seva i do little bit time what i get from my job and college m staying in mumbai i wanna to hear the management lecture which is schedule on 27th feb its kept on friday so i wont be able to come down at pune s there any way to get me the message or talk of dadaji.

i also want to be volunter in your programmes or seva pls guide me how can i join you.

Pls do reply for all above

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I too feel respect is earned. I was married to a man who says he demands respect from the kids. Well my kids did show respect out of fear. But as they got older they still respected but they could point blank tell you they had no respect for him at all.

By: brenda tuthill

brenda tuthill — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I have been married 22 years. My mother in law has always had a sense of entitlemeant, and expected a higher respect because she is my husbands mother. She has disrespected me terribly over the years, and even been down right cruel. She always calls me honey instead of by my name. I have tried to talk to her about it, and she feaks out and turns the family against me. My husband has done nothing. He says he is protecting himself. I decided she is not healthy for me, and now i just stay away. I wish we could resolve things, but she refuses to talk about it.