How did you overcome this. Are you still in a relationship with that man or have you moved on . And what things hurt you in this relationship?

He sounds manipulative…you don’t owe him anything.

As a wife, of a man who had an affair, this really hurts to read.
You sound selfish. You’re hurt he wont commit to you, but he is already committed to someone else. You knew he was married, so you should have stopped and could have cultivated a deep friendship with him and his family instead. You could have loved them all.
He sounds selfish. Is this really a person you want to be with? Someone who lies to the people he claim to love (his wife, you, and himself) .
And absense makes the heart grow fonder. You are living in an affair bobble. Imagine every day life with him, picking up his socks and dirty dishes for the umpteenth time, or his vomit when he has been sick. Does is still sound romantic?
You are merely guided by hormones and biology, maybe it helps you to think of it that way. Dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin are strong. You can read up on the physiological responses to sex to learn more.
He says he can’t leave? Trust him, – he wont.

Sincere thanks and gratitude for your response. I am healing and I will not allow myself to be pressured into forging a connection with this man. I feel it is another manipulative tactic. He has been staying with me during quarantine and I realize I cannot properly heal with him here so I will be asking him, sternly, to leave. Because I’ve made the suggestion but he did not accept. So now I have to try a different method. I know I can do this and still be mindful and compassionate. Thanks again.

I’ve been there – and it sucks. But you must know you are absolutely not obligated to reconcile with him. You should eventually allow yourself to come to a place of forgiveness (for your own sake), but you can do this on your own. You are still living in the present – even without him. Your ex should realize that actually saying this stuff to you isn’t helping you.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are completely entitled to feel disappointed, and to move on without this person in your life. You should not have someone essentially trying to force their love onto you. If he really loves you – he would acknowledge his wrongdoing, apologize, continue with his therapy, and allow you to move on. But you must communicate how you really about this to him! There is nothing wrong with wanting to move on with your life without someone.

I do hope you can find some solace friend! Infidelity is never easy to deal with, moreover to move past from. You’re strong Teri! You had a life before this man and will continue to have one after him. Wishing you all the best xo