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Our fears keep us from experiencing a joyous, fulfilled life. To overcome them, meditate
The fear of going crazy, the fear of letting go in sexual orgasm and the fear of dying—in these three fears humanity has lived for thousands of years. They are not personal, they are collective. They come from the collective unconscious.
The fear of going crazy is in everyone. For the simple reason that the intelligence has not been allowed to develop. Intelligence is dangerous to the vested interest. So for thousands of years, they have been cutting the very roots of intelligence.
Man lives almost uprooted. He has to be made uprooted, so that he can become dependent on the society, on the culture, on the religion, on the state, on the parents, on everybody. He has to depend. He himself has no roots. The moment he becomes aware that he has no roots, he feels he is going crazy, he is going insane. He is losing every support, he is falling into a dark ditch… because the knowledge is borrowed, it is not his own. The respectability is borrowed. He himself has no respect for his own being. His whole personality is borrowed from some source—the university, the church, the state. He himself has nothing of his own.
The parents say if you don’t follow us, if you disobey, you will be condemned.
So everybody goes on clinging to the crowd, remaining part of a religion, a church, a party, a nation, a race. He’s afraid to be alone, and that’s what you [therapists] are doing when you bring him to his own depths. All that crowd, all those connections, disappear. He’s left alone and there is nobody else on whom he has always depended.
He has not grown his own intelligence—that is the problem. Unless he starts growing his own intelligence, he will always remain afraid of being crazy.
In deep therapy the fear grips suddenly, because the person is losing all the props, supports; the crowd is disappearing farther and farther away; he is being left alone. And suddenly there is darkness and there is fear. He has never been trained, disciplined for being alone and that is the function of meditation. No therapy is complete without meditation, because only meditation can give him his lost roots, his strength of being an individual. There is nothing to fear. But the conditioning is that you have to be afraid each moment, at each step.
So help the person to understand that this is nothing to be worried, there is nothing to be afraid. It is a created fear. Every child is born fearless. He can play with the snakes with no fear. He has no idea of fear or death or anything. Meditation brings the person back to his childhood. He is reborn.
Sex is man’s whole energy, his life energy, and religious prophets and messiahs, messengers of God, they all are doing the same work in different words, different languages, but their work is the same… to make man an enemy of himself.
And the basic strategy is—because sex is the most powerful energy in you—sex should be condemned, guilt should be created. Then arises a problem for the individual.
His nature is sensuous, sexual, and his mind is full of garbage against it. He is in a split. He can’t drop the mind, because dropping the mind means dropping the society, the religion, God, everything. He’s not capable to do that unless he has become an individual and is able to be alone without any fear.
So man is afraid of sex as far as his mind is concerned, but his biology has nothing to do with the mind. The biology has its own way of functioning, so the biology will draw him towards sex and his mind will be standing there continuously condemning him. So he makes love, but in a hurry. That hurry has a very psychological reason. The hurry is he is doing something wrong. He is doing something against God, against religion. He is feeling guilty and he cannot manage not to do it, so the only compromise is: do it, but be quick. That avoids the orgasm.
A man who has not known orgasm feels unfulfilled, frustrated, angry, because he had never been in a state, which nature provides freely, where he could have relaxed totally and become one with the existence, at least for a few moments.
Because of his hurry, he cannot manage the orgasm. Sex has become equivalent to ejaculation. That is not true as far as nature is concerned. Ejaculation is only a part, which you can manage without orgasm. You can reproduce children, so biology is not worried about your orgasm. Your biology is satisfied if you reproduce children, and they can be reproduced only by ejaculation, there is no need for orgasm.
Orgasm is a tremendous gift of nature. Man is deprived and because he is so quick in making love that the woman is deprived. The woman needs time to warm up. Her whole body is erotic, and unless her whole body is throbbing with joy, she will not be able to experience orgasm. For that there is no time.
So for millions of years women have been completely denied their birthright. That’s why they have become so bitchy, so continuously nagging, always ready to fight. She’s being deprived of her whole possibility of blissfulness. Then she becomes negative.
Orgasm is going to give you your roots, which have been taken away from you. So don’t be worried. And mixed will be the fear in orgasm that one may go crazy. If in orgasm one goes crazy, help him to go crazy. Only then he will be able to have it in its totality. But the orgasm relaxes every fibre of your mind, your heart, your body.
It is immensely important for meditation that a person has the experience of orgasm. Then you can make him understand what meditation is. It is an orgasmic experience with the whole existence. If the orgasm can be so beautiful and so beneficial, so healthy with a single human being, meditation is getting into oneness with the whole that surrounds you, from the smallest blade of grass to the biggest star, millions of years away.
The first [fear] is of being alone. Much of the fear of death will be destroyed by the first experience of being alone and having no fear. The remaining much of the fear of death will be immediately destroyed by the experience of orgasm, because in an orgasm the person disappears. The ego is no more. There is an experiencing, but the experiencer is no more.
These first two steps will help to solve the third step very easily. And with each step you have to go on deepening his meditativeness. Any therapy without meditation cannot help much. It is just superficial, touching here and there, and soon the man will be the same again. A real transformation has never happened without meditation, and these are beautiful situations as far as meditation is concerned.
So [therapists should] use the first to make him alone. Use the second to give him courage and tell him to drop all thoughts, just go crazily orgasmic. Don’t bother what happens. We are here to take care of you. With these two steps the third will be very easy. That is the easiest. It looks the biggest fear of man. It is not true.
You don’t know death; how can you be afraid of it? You have always seen other people dying. You have never seen yourself dying. Who knows, you are maybe the exception, because there is no proof that you are going to die. Those who have died have given proof that they were mortals.
Experiencing death—people dying in disgust, in misery, in suffering, in all kinds of pain, old age—that gives you the fear of death. Because nobody has known the death of an enlightened man, how beautifully he dies, how joyously he dies. The moment of his death is of tremendous luminosity, silence, as if joy is radiating from every pore of his being. Those who are near him, those who have been fortunate to be near him, will be simply surprised that death is far more glorious than life has ever been.
But this kind of death happens only to people who have lived totally, without fear, who have lived orgasmically, without bothering about idiots and what they are saying. They [these idiots] know nothing about it, and they go on saying about it.
The fear of death will be the simplest out of the three. You have to solve the first two, and then you tell the person that death is not the end of life. If you meditate deeply and reach to your innermost centre, you will suddenly find an eternal life current.
The bodies… there have been many. There have been many forms to your being, but you are just the same. But it has to be not just a belief—it has to be made their experience.
So remember one thing: your therapy groups should not be ordinary therapy—just somehow whitewashing and giving a man a feeling that he has learned something, he has experienced something and after a week or two he is the same. There is not a single person in the whole world, who is totally psychoanalysed. And there are thousands of psychoanalysts doing psychoanalysis, and not a single case they have been able to complete yet, for the simple reason because they have nothing to do with meditation. And without meditation you can go on painting on the surface, but the inner reality remains the same.
Excerpted from The Last Testament/ Courtesy: Osho International Foundation/www.osho.com