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Misery and happiness is all a matter of abandoning unhealthy attitudes and cultivating healthy ones
Have you ever wondered what makes you unhappy, discontented, dissatisfied and restless? In this, as in many other things, the Americans have been quite systematic in identifying causes, symptoms and remedies. Here are the top causes of unhappiness according to researches conducted by American psychologists:
To put it simply, we are unhappy because:
It is clear that unhappiness arises out of our unwillingness to accept life as it is.
Desires are like waves
And men sway upon their desires
Like boats tossed upon the sea…
The great Roman thinker, Marcus Aurelius, tells us, ”If you are disturbed, made unhappy by external things, it is not they that disturb you, but your judgement of them. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgement now.”
In other words, it’s all a matter of attitude. If we are unhappy, we only have ourselves to blame. When we try to shift the blame on to external events and other people, we are only refusing to take responsibility for our own unhappiness.
One reason why many of us continue to live in unhappiness is sheer force of habit. We have made ourselves so accustomed to a sense of discontent, that we are unwilling to get ourselves out of the mire. It’s like Goethe has said: “Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Willingness is not enough, we must do.”
We, too, can escape unhappiness and misery. When conditions are unfavourable, and we cannot change them, we can change our attitude—and change our life. All we require are the wings God has given us—the wings of patience and faith.
Patience and faith enable us to cultivate healthy, positive attitudes like these…
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